Tuesday, June 29, 2010

Broken marriage promise pushed her to suicide...


'Broken marriage promise pushed her to suicide'- These were the headlines in 'Mumbai Mirror' on Sunday, June 27. The person who committed suicide was Viveka Babaji, a known model. This is the most talked about news at the moment and makes one wonder! There were several related articles too on the subject. On dreams, hollow life and quest for love... which is all very sad.

Life in a city gets too embroiled in too many expectations from life and self. First - studies ; then work - and it's a competitive world out there! And if you take all of it sincerely, you realise you forgot to live. And when you want to live, you realise things have changed. And for a woman, who is biologically made for some functions by nature, when you do not fulfill them, an emptiness sets in! Also, if due to reasons beyond your control, you are unable to marry, family and society puts a lot of pressure, often blaming the girl herself ! And if all this is accompanied by broken promises and shattering of related dreams, it can totally break a woman, sometimes even a strong one! Because naturally, a woman needs security and a man's presence in her life to feel complete. That's how God has made them.

There was a similar incident in Bhayander several months back. A girl of 37 years, who was unmarried, got frustrated with the pressures and ridicule of society and finally decided to end her life. An unmarried girl (without her own fault) is often looked at with questionable eyes! Also, our society has so many customs and traditions, where only 'married' women are allowed to participate. This is further insulting and demeaning to unmarried women and widows! In our society woman is blamed for almost everything -breaking of an engagement/ rishta; early and untimely death of her husband; not being able to bear children; also not being able to have a male child. Such societal behaviour can drive a person to insanity after a while... You might have a good job, a decent salary and lifestyle, but sans 'happiness', everything still boils to nothing !

Life can surely be strange and unfair to some!

2 comments:

sk said...

Shagufta,
This topic reminds me of the book by my favorite writer Paulo Coelho, "Veronika Decides to Die".
Please try to get hold of this book and read it. Books written by Paulo Coelho has been a great source of inspiration for me and many people all over the world. They have given me greater insights into life and it's mysteries. His books have the power to inspire and change people's lives....

Shagufta said...

Let me see if I can get hold of the book and read it... not read fiction in a long time. Into spiritual books these days. Also 'The Secret' recommended by you, I'd watched the CD, which was more effective! I bought the book also later and glanced through it mostly.
Viveka Babaji's suicide story came at a time when I myself was worried with similar problems, hence it had more impact on me! The Bhayander suicide incident was a small 'inside page' story several months back, which was when I'd wanted to write on the topic. Wonder how many might have read about it. And there are many stories which go untold as some learn to compromise on happiness, while some lose their senses. Senses, hmm... reminds me of one incident way back in childhood about a girl, but related to academics, which I should write on....